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How to stop worrying and start living

How to stop worrying and start living

How to stop worrying and start living

How to stop worrying and start living

For some people it can be really hard to over come the daily worries. Worrying often is all for nothing. Worrying day in day out can just create unnecessary stress for your self and won’t improve your situation in any way or form. I have been most of my life one of those people which have worried about things which usually just never materialized. For me at least this always started with self doubt. Thoughts of doubt clouding my judgement and ultimately making me worry about things like, is everything fine with my work, am I working hard enough, am I doing the best I can, these all lead to more worries which indirectly made me worry about money, whether I will succeed in life or not. In this article I will share my experience and how I overcome worrying just to get my life back. Check out the top ways to stop worrying and start living below.

The top five thoughts you should nip in the bud if you want to stop worrying and start living

  1. I am unsure of myself and my abilities. This has always lead me to thinking that I am worthlessness. Then creates the worry that others would think the same of me.
  2. ┬áThinking about failure which may never happen. This has always been a big factor for me. As soon as I don’t allow myself to think that I have made a success this creates more problems. Another toxic thought just opens up my mind for more toxic thoughts.
  3. Negativity, this is the number one life killer. With constant negativity your life will just have no fulfillment avoid negativity at all costs. Negative people, nay sayers and others which do not contribute any positive thoughts to your life.
  4. Attachment to things and fear of loss. Minimalism can help. Often possessions can just be a ball and chain, I had so much stress just purely because of things dragging me down. Own your things don’t let them own you. If you live a more minimalist life style this gives you freedom to travel and move around.
  5. Feeling out of control of your situation. No matter what situation you find yourself in if you start feeling this way you will just end up worrying all over again. Kill this devil before it comes up.

Top ways to avoid the worrying thoughts

  1. Become active, if you are occupied with something else you can easily stop thinking about your worries just purely because your mind can’t do both at the same time. Worrying really places a lot of stress on your mind.
  2. Start a blog, blog about your life experiences and this might help you start to neutralize bad thoughts. Often putting your thoughts on paper or reducing them to words can make you better understand where the source of the problem actually is. If you want to know how to start a blog check out our post on that.
  3. Get a really good hobby, if there is something you are passionate about this will just dumb down those bad thoughts.
  4. Let yourself live, sometimes you just not living because you are not allowing yourself to have a life. Force yourself to go out and enjoy life again. Be spontaneous. I remember I used to just to get away from the hussle and bussle would plan a spontaneous trip to the beach. Allow yourself to live, this is very important.
  5. Associate yourself with energetic people which are completely high on life and simply live the dream.
  6. Affirmations are a powerful tool to get yourself revved up for the day ahead. Employ them to help you get in the right mindset.

 

Financial independence blog and early retirement

Financial independence blog and early retirement

Financial independence blog and early retirement

Financial independence blog and early retirement

Some of you may have by now found this blog and read through some of my posts. If you have you may have a really good idea on what this blog is about. However I haven’t really given a proper introduction. Tangent life is a lifestyle and financial independence blog. The aim is to help improve people’s lives, the way they live the way they go about their daily activities and also help people achieve financial independence and freedom. If you have ever looked for early retirement ideas and strategies you may have landed on one of my articles in the past.

It has always been a big dream of mine to try inspire and motivate others through positive thoughts and affirmations. Being born from a leadership role I am fortunate to be in a position to be able to motivate others to achieve their goals and dreams. Whether that be on a personal level or on a professional level.

I can remember from an early age I have always been interested in the concept of early retirement. Asking those universal questions as you may have gathered. What would I do if I was financially free. Where would I go. What would I like to see.

Is TangentLife just a financial independence blog?

No most definitely not I have much bigger dreams and expectations. I would love to be able to assist people with ways for people to become free as human beings, to live an enlightened and full filled life. There is no real other way to describe it than as a whole some life blog. Covering topics such as finance, motivation, life skills and life hacks. Fashion and health as well as travel. I believe in order to live a balanced lifestyle all these components needs to be factored in. Especially your day to day health, leisure time, experiences and focuses in life.

Here are some of the core topics I will be writing about if you wish to start checking out the articles surrounding them:

Where can I find some of the financial independence posts?

Here are some of the ones relating to how to start an online business and also an online t shirt business. Check them out below:

How to start and online business simple steps

How to start a tshirt business at home

Where can I find some of the motivational and uplifting posts?

Check out some of these for your interest.

How to love yourself and become confident

How to make a good first impression

 

Where can I find more inspirational stuff?

If you want to find a few more really nice inspirational resources check out our pinterest or youtube channel.

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzTLRQllSIZS8G0fHz1BWbA

how to make a good first impression

How to make a good first impression

Are you one of those people who just doesn’t know how to make a good first impression? Then I would know what you are going through I too used to be one of those sad souls. As we all know the first impression can last but a few seconds. Also it can be even quicker for anyone to size you up and make a decision about you as a person. This undoubtedly is part of human nature. We are a skeptical species of any one which does not run inside our trusted social groups. The true key to making a good first impression is to show strong attributes, which will make the other person envious. It really can sometimes just be a desire driven thing moment where the other person or group appreciates your attributes.

Making a good first impression can be so important that it could effect your success in life. Your impression in a sales pitch, your impression in a job interview, trust in relationships and other walks of life which require social interaction.

Depending on the actual generation or focus group you are interacting with this can mean very different things. Here are a few general things you can do to be accepted by general society as a good first impression maker.

How to make a good first impression with the way you dress

How to make a good first impression with the way you dress

How to make a good first impression with the way you dress

If you have a very bad idea for dress aesthetics. Formal wear makes it very difficult to go wrong. Formal wear is designed for consistency of look. It is symmetric, balanced and stylish and will most likely will always be a head turner. Luckily with your dressing habits you have options, as long as you keep the look consistent and your clothing fits you like a glove you should be fine. Try to wear clothing which compliments your best attributes. Alternatively wear clothing which can diminish the negative portions of your physical appearance. Here is bit of a guide on what sorts of things you can do for different body types. I will discuss both the women body shapes as well as the male body shapes.

Women and the different body types

The main body types we see in women are the triangle,hourglass, rectangle and vee body type.

Triangle Body Type

Your shoulders aren’t as wide as your waist and you generally are wider in the hips. Here are some ways you can improve your look. With this body type it is essential to try and widen the shoulders to take away emphasis on the hips. For this reason wearing necklaces and v tops which show a bit more skin below the chin will emphasize the focal point to be on your upper body.
Wearing jackets with shoulder padding may help give that slight widening to the shoulders which will push the focal point up to just below your chin. Over all from a distance this should make you look more balanced and give you a more slimmer curvy look.

Hour glass body type

Your shoulders and hips are pretty much the same width and your waist is some what smaller than your hips and shoulders. Your body type is mostly curvy. For the best effect you would want to create a taller look. You can do this with high heel shoes, dresses and long coats tied up with a belt. To allow a longer feel. This should balance out any overbearing look of your being potentially wider than you would like to be.

Rectangle body type

All parts of your upper body are mostly the same width. What we would want to go for is the creation of a more curvy feel. To do this we need to emphasize the shoulders. Wearing sleeveless tank tops can really place more emphasis on the shoulders leaving the waist to the imagination creating a slightly more curvy look.

Vee body type

Your shoulders is wide and waist tapering in towards your hips. What can really help is the creation of long legs. We can do this with high heels and dresses which are just above the knee. To create that long leg look. Removing absolute focus away from the shoulders.

Men and the different body types

In men we generally see three different body types. The beer belly wider waist than shoulders type (right side up triangle), upside down triangle and the rectangle.

Right side up triangle

Your waist is bigger than your shoulders. With this body type you would really like to emphasize those shoulders. We are going for that v-taper look. Wear jackets which pads the shoulders. Suit jackets can also help this effect. Wearing a suitable belt and slimmer pants would create a slimmer look below the waist line creating a v shape top to bottom.

Upside down triangle

This is usually quite an athletic build type. You would want to extenuate your smaller waist to expose the obliques. Slimmer shirts will fit you best to make the shoulders look wider and the waist smaller.

Rectangle type

Everything is pretty much in proportion. Wear slimmer pants and jackets which widen the shoulders.

How to make a good first impression simply by changing posture

How to make a good first impression simply by changing posture

How to make a good first impression simply by changing posture

Body language is a big component in our communication as human beings. Not so much as an actual language, but can tell a lot about a persons mood and mental state. If you are slouching or in a reserved position all the time this could really damage the impression of your confidence. This especially could be damaging in a situation where you need to prove yourself perhaps in an interview or presentation. It is super important to convey confidence and will be super difficult for any one to get that impression if you look as if you are disinterested or negative towards your current situation.

Stand up straight keep good focus on your audience, have your level of sight meet theirs. It is good to make contact with individuals in your audience from time to time to allow them the feeling that they are part of the conversation you are in. If it is with one person one on one make sure to keep eye contact as this is a sign of trust and that you giving them your full attention.

How to make a good first impression just with good manners

How to make a good first impression just with good manners

How to make a good first impression just with good manners

The way you speak and treat people can make the world of difference. Listening and responding with an emotional connection can make people feel more comfortable. Don’t use vulgar language when wanting to make a good first impression it will only paint the picture of you being a low life. Be courteous and be considerate of the needs and thoughts of others. Allowing others to speak their minds gives them just so much more comfort. Don’t judge others you want to make an impression with treat them as a guru.

How to make a good first impression through good vibes

How to make a good first impression through good vibes

How to make a good first impression through good vibes

Be positive and rub your positivity off on people. Everyone likes to be associated with someone who can bring a shining light into their lives. Be positive always and make people feel you have something really positive to introduce into their lives. This feel good feeling will eventually be associated with your presence and will create a more longer term good impression of you to a person or an audience.

How to make a good first impression through speach

How to make a good first impression through speach

How to make a good first impression through speach

Speak clearly and to the point. This will make people feel you are an authority in your field or topic of discussion and will create and even better impression of your with them.

How to make a good first impression through basic body language

How to make a good first impression through basic body language

How to make a good first impression through basic body language

Remember to smile and put on a friendly face. Be confident and have an open body language no folded arms or hands in front of your face or mouth. Open up your body language keep your arms to your sides. Use hand movements in your discussions they just illustrate a story much better than it would if you didn’t. Think openness and allow the right people in. If you do they will feel more open and comfortable with you as well.

How to make a good first impression through grooming

How to make a good first impression through grooming

How to make a good first impression through grooming

Always be neat, well dressed and your hair and hygiene be at it’s peak. Hygiene is a big factor in how people perceive you. Bad hygiene can be a sign of laziness, no care and lack of ambition. Make sure to practice good hygiene

What else to consider when you want to make a good impression

What else to consider when you want to make a good impression

What else to consider when you want to make a good impression

Every person in the world is different and they all could notice different things. The above items discuss most of the common things people will look for when sizing you up. It is best to practice all of them day to day and keep all of these items maintained in your life if you wish to continuously convey a good impression. An example may be a person which is extremely grooming conscious they may notice nothing else about you except your hygiene and if you practice all the items above they might say after you have left your meeting or interview saying wow that person has really great hygiene. So try to practice all these items to try and make an impression with most of the general population on a consistent basis.

Other resources on how to make a good first impression

https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Well-Groomed

If you are struggling with self confidence. So many of us think are here is another article on how to love yourself and become confident. I think this will really help some of you especially if you are feeling really down and out and depressed at the moment. As well as if you feel your life isn’t really making a turn for the good.

Something else you might enjoy I think if you are looking to up your income you can check out our article on how to start a online business.

How to love yourself and become confident

How to love yourself and become confident

Would you agree that in order to love yourself can be really hard? Especially when you are going through a tough time? Does it just break your confidence? I know the feeling and it can be quite a challenge to regain your self worth. Usually the feeling might manifest after defeat after defeat. Leaving you broken, hurt and afraid to continue with life. This is my journey on how to love yourself and become confident that I will be sharing.

I will in this post tell you my story on self defeat and how I over came this ball and chain. Hopefully this will show you how to love yourself and become confident again.

I will go into detail on the steps I took, the habits I cultivated and things I did to bring back my self worth. Hopefully the same journey will help someone in need. Here is the four quickest things you can change to start feeling better today.

How to love yourself and become confident

How to love yourself and become confident

Start with daily affirmations

It has been discussed the world over and reiterated hundreds of times. That positive thinking attracts positive things. The reality of course is that it’s easier said than done. If you are going through a tough time. It may be extremely difficult for you to see any silver lining. It is however alright to lie to yourself a bit in the beginning. Bring out your old mirror, find the things you like about yourself and say them out loud to yourself in the mirror, even if they may be fantasy at first. The main things is not to make yourself out to be a crazy person, but rather to just to kick your day off on good footing. It can always be useful to just start with a bounce in your step.

Better hygiene and grooming

One of the first things to go when you have lost your self worth is your over all hygiene. In order to love yourself you need to take care of yourself. Groom as if you are obsessive compulsive on steroids. If you are clean, odor free, neat and spotless you will automatically be at the very least one percent more confident than you were before. Not to mention your self image will improve and people might actually want to be around you when you are odor free.

Good posture

Make use of good posture. Everyone looks more attractive, outgoing and more successful with good posture. If you have bad posture you are also less comfortable. Appear shorter and less noticeable. If your goal is to create this person with good self esteem and a good self image. Make yourself look taller and more noticeable with better posture.

Use the power of the war cry

For many people it can really be hard to find internal strength. It can even be more difficult to internalize that and bring it to the surface. I find it very difficult to get myself motivated. Usually when I’m in a period of self doubt. I usually use a war cry to force out motivation. Bring drive back to the surface and give myself an opportunity to also let out any cropped up self anger and frustration. The war cry by far is probably my favorite way to regain myself. Usually an abrupt roar or shout of some positive affirmation. It sounds really stupid I know and will look really weird doing it in public.

However the war cry has been used for thousands of years to make people more fierce than they truly are. Life is a war day by day and why should you not have your own war cry to get you in the right mind set for the battle ahead.

How to love yourself and become confident in the medium term

I have now discussed four really quick ways to already start improving your state of mind almost immediately. How ever self doubt, self esteem issues, resentment towards yourself and just plain hopelessness usually runs deeper. So in saying this I have taken not just short term approaches to improving but medium to long term as well. Here is what I did in the medium term to over come self loathing.

Stop any substance abuse

When I talk about substance abuse. Everyone immediately thinks drugs OMG! The reality a substance could be anything you are over indulging in to help you cope. The sad part of course about this all is that initially this may have started as a coping mechanism. However over time it became a habit which you now despise about yourself or worse you are ignorant about. Whether we choose to admit it to ourselves or not any coping mechanism has an impact on our life style. Over indulging in food may bring on obesity which will only worsen your mental image of yourself. Drinking may lead to disorders such as depression, memory loss and other conditions which will make you just hate yourself more. Drugs of course you all know the dangers no need for me to say anything there.

The main reason really for abstaining from any substances, is not really the removal of the substance from your life, but rather to clear your mind. Truly the only way to heal is to have clear thoughts and to allow your mind to resolve them on it’s own time. Don’t beat yourself up if you are not healing fast enough, it’s all a process. Everyone is different and have their own reasons for being in the state they are.

Rediscover your passion

I found when I started applying the above steps, especially after breaking the cycle of alcohol abuse. I regained my passion for life and new things. It was magic. I had always been an extremely technical and mathematical person and now all of a sudden I became creative. I started drawing and writing and creating things which others would find useful. It’s really important you go on a search for something which makes you excited to your core again. Find your child hood again. Start a new hobby, start a business online, join a local community whatever it may be. Allow yourself to have this leisure time to do the thing you love. You don’t just deserve it you also paid for it with your emotional turmoil.

Create internal joy. Some may even turn to God for help. Do what you need to make you want to jump out of bed again. Be relentless in your quest for regaining your passion.

This all sounds very vague, but in reality if you are enriching your life with these things your confidence will rise on it’s own. You now all of a sudden have more to talk about. More positivity and can rub it off on others.

Become selfish

The world has stepped all over you. It is now time to just be a bit selfish for once. Take care of yourself and your needs for once. I am not saying do this forever, just give yourself enough me time to think things through, restructure your life and to recover.

How to love yourself and become confident in the long term

At this point I was starting to cross over from it being a daily routine to it being a life style and it becoming part of the new me. At this point the drive was so phenomenal I wanted to start challenging myself in many more ways than I could imagine. I wanted more and haven’t wanted more in a long time. It was a great feeling for a change.

This is going to sound funny, but I was always a bit nerdy and now I wanted six pack abs and big biceps. Kind of chuckled to myself about this, it’s something I’ve always thought of wanting to do but never really went after because I never thought I’d be able to achieve it. However now for the first time I felt I could do this thing I felt I am in a place where I can push myself past my own limits.

This is where my long term journey began. Here are the things I did next to build my confidence.

Start working out

At first it was quite daunting I struggled, two weeks went by, three weeks went by and I was hurting every day. Even though my progress was not as great as I hoped, I did start noticing improvements in my well being. Mainly my stress levels, mental state and really the self image improved drastically. I became concerned with using perfect form in my workouts and it brought upon a form of discipline in my life. Something I hadn’t felt since my years at university where I was studying quite a challenging mathematical discipline. The thought of having something so simple be so difficult and require so much focus to perfect gave me something new to live for.

Exercise really is such a big thing in the self esteem game you should definitely try it. I do however see it as a long term confidence builder, mainly because I never progressed very quickly and always see it as a 2 years or more plan to get into the shape I want to be in. The unfortunate reality is we don’t all have that perfect genetic advantage which helps us tone up in a matter of weeks. Perhaps it is different for you and you can put it into one of your short term routines.

Reward yourself

The biggest mistake I have always made was to worry too much about things which may never happen. Due to this I never rewarded myself for anything good I did. The really sad reality in life is most people are negative and will try break you down and stamp on your dreams. This in itself can leave you feeling stupid and unimportant. The only true real source of recognition can come from yourself. So reward yourself when you truly feel you deserve something. Remember set the bar high and you will feel just so much more accomplished. No free handouts to yourself :).

Further your education or knowledge

Everyone is more confident when they have something important to contribute. I am not saying you should go spend money on expensive degrees or courses. Just keep up scaling your knowledge. If you know a lot about a topic of importance you will just feel more important. I have a solid regime of daily knowledge building. Often it may be trivial and unimportant but I build on it every day. Even if it takes you 10 mins a day to just do some reading or watching a youtube video. Do yourself a favor and gain that knowledge.

Of course knowledge can lead to greater income which too could be a confidence booster.

Start helping others

Once you have achieved your own success of overcoming self esteem issues pay it forward. Guide others and help others with their problems. This even more so will give you more purpose and will push you even further in the right direction.

Remember you need to start slow and change small things every day. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Just become better everyday even if it’s just one percent improvement per day. Create a sustainable life style which is easy to follow day by day for the most long term effect.

If you want to read more about self esteem here are some more wiki pages on the topic:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem